Remember the first Matrix movie, where Neo meets the spoon bending boy at the oracle’s waiting room? The boy teaches Neo the secret: There are no spoon. It’s the same with marriage; there are no walls. If marriage is a prison, it is all in your head. You are free to do anything you want. Really. You see, the confinement of marriage is fictitious. It is made up by barriers that disappear once you identify them. They are called expectations.
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Being married is some sort of confinement. You have placed yourself in an environment freedom and authority is reduced. And you have to chose your role. Will you be the tyrant warden or a will-less inmate? Or something in-between? Here are four roles from prison life, and how they apply to marriage:
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You’ve heard it before; marriage is like a prison. We talk about the old ‘ball and chain’ and when we plan a stag party, it’s about a guy’s last party as a free man.

It’s a joke that’s true, like most good jokes. Because marriage IS a prison. I know, I’m married and I’ve been to prison.
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The Chief Happiness Officer has a short posting on praise, where he quotes Katrine Dahl saying that superficial praise can be pointless or even negative. They’re both talking about work related praise, but I think this applies to man-woman-relationships too. The point is that while superficial praise like “you’re so beautiful” may be nice once, it becomes hollow and empty if you’re saying it every day. Instead, say something like “I lose my breath every time you let your hair down.” Specific praise like that really makes her day, and will make her want to do more of the things you like. There’s just one vital difference between work praise and a girlfriend compliment:
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An Esquire reader asks if a vibrator can “desensitize my girlfriend to the point that I can’t please her?” and I think the answer is very good advice - as well as fun to read. In short: Yes - and no. But that’s not funny, is it? You just have to read the quote below.
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