June 6, 2007 @ 8:08 pm
How To Compete Against A Vibrator
An Esquire reader asks if a vibrator can “desensitize my girlfriend to the point that I can’t please her?” and I think the answer is very good advice - as well as fun to read. In short: Yes - and no. But that’s not funny, is it? You just have to read the quote below.
Yes, a vibrator, used correctly, can desensitize a lady’s parts, but the sensation will return to normal [...] if she can just put the thing down for five minutes. There are other alternatives for men like you — men who cannot satisfy their women. Thomas Gertz, executive director of the American College of Sexologists, suggests that couples “incorporate the vibrator into their sexual activity,” or what I like to call the old “if you can’t beat ‘em, grudgingly accommodate ‘em and let ‘em eat you alive” tactic.
Ahem… If I may slide in my two cents here… A woman can satisfy herself much faster than you can satisfy her. Just as you can satisfy yourself single handed much faster then when you’re making a team effort. You can’t compete with that, and you should not even try. Instead, try to take control of the situation. Take it slow. Tease her and take pauses. Build up the sexual tension and she will climax way much better than she does on her own.
Source: ‘Can a vibrator desensitize my girlfriend to the point that I can’t please her?’ - Esquire
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Posted by www.modernmasculinity.com
June 18, 2007 @ 3:20 pm
Fear of Vibrators…
Tom at brakar.com, recently wrote “How to Compete With a Vibrator“. Quoting an Esquire Sexpert column where a reader asks about a vibrator desensitizing his woman to the point where he cannot please her, Tom comments:
Ahem… If I may sl…
Posted by Deepak
June 19, 2007 @ 7:14 am
Yes, vibrator will desensitize, becasue, the vibration is so intense that even if the vibrator is not in contact, it leaves the impulse around. Someone using daily and for years, would retain the vibrations around which no other thing can give. So, she would miss her vibrator whatever pleasure you try to give her. Its not only a vibrator, its vibrating dildo(looks real) with soft, much thicker and longer than real one. One way of giving her orgasm is by tongue, but would need lot of patience as she is used to that particular pattern out of vibrator. Even if you give orgasm using tongue, it won’t be that intense, just there is no comparison.
Posted by Pete
August 8, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
Deepak - I’ve often thought about this concept… that the feeling a girl gets from a vibrator is so much more intense than the one a guy can give her, that using her vibrator is more exciting to her than having sex with her partner. And that she almost perhaps wishes she never had to go back to a ‘regular’ orgasm, kind of thing. I think this is what men generally have a problem with - the notion that his partner and her vibrator go somewhere he can’t come along too when she’s feeling such pleasure from it, and that when she thinks horny; she thinks vibrator… not you.
What I want to know is what you think it means for blokes, if what you suggested is accurate. ie how would a bloke deal with that information… assuming that there isn’t one bloke on the planet who doesn’t fear that possiblity.
Posted by Thomas
August 9, 2008 @ 12:01 am
Hiya Pete.
Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment. I will pay you back by saying this: There’s no way a vibrator can compete with you. The idea that a woman would associate horny with a machine instead of a man, is like saying that a guy (bloke) would long for a hot date with his right hand instead of a woman.
Just think of this: a vibrator is just a tool. If it’s in her own hands it has limited abilities. She can never surprise herself, or tease herself. With this machine she can only please herself very quickly. And though she’s guaranteed an orgasm, it doesn’t mean that it’s better sex.
Have no fear, Pete. Treat her good, and she will long for you so hard that she’ll reach for the vibrator every time you’re not available.